The obsession with being ‘tight’

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Tight pussies!

There, I said it. We’re all obsessed! But why?

Well as a society, we are told that being tight means being healthy and young – like a virgin again; pure, innocent and less used. It’s a toxic mentality fed onto women (and men) where it made them think that a woman is undesirable because they lack vaginal strength. That tighter vaginas means amazing sex, heck, greatest sex ever!

But is it true? Let’s delve into myths surrounding ‘being tight’ and why it’s not all great as we think.

Myth #1: All virgins are ‘tight’

False. Just like penises, vaginas too come in different shapes and sizes. The widths and depth of a vagina differ from each individual. The same can be said for other body parts of ours like our hands, nose, eyes, mouths, butt, breasts etc. They’re all different sizes!

Myth #2: If a woman has too many sex, her vagina becomes ‘loose’

False. The vagina’s tightly-folded muscle tissue is extremely elastic. Except during sex or childbirth, this tissue remain tightly folded. If women are turned on sexually, the muscles relax and lubrication happen, which allows easier penetration. After sex, the vaginal muscle tissue naturally ‘tightens’ again. Penetration, no matter how many times it is, does NOT permanently stretch a vagina out.

Myth #3: You can know if a woman is ‘loose’ by the way she walks

FALSE. You cannot determine whether someone is promiscuous or not by the way they walk. That is dumb. Also, we now know that there is not such as thing as ‘loose’, just different sizes.

Myth #4: Childbirth ruins vaginal elasticity

NOT REALLY. During childbirth, the vagina does stretch out a lot, but it does go back to its normal size within a few months. Women may experience vaginal dryness due to drop of estrogen during childbirth and breastfeeding as well as weaker pelvic floor muscles, but it does end after some time. However, it’s important to note that length of vaginal muscle healing does differ according to different women and their ages.

Myth #5: Women lose vaginal elasticity as they age

TRUE. As with any muscles, it does become tired as we age, it is the same with vaginal muscles. With aging, as estrogen levels diminish, the vaginal walls become thinner and less elastic, so the muscles begin to lose their tautness. 

Myth #6: Vaginal tightening creams work

WHO KNOWS. There aren’t enough tests and research done for these creams or gels. So we don’t really know if it works or safe as they may contain chemicals that aren’t safe for the body. If you want to try it, understand potential risks and consequences.

Myth #7: Tight vaginas are good

NOT REALLY. In fact, a tight vagina means that the woman is not fully aroused. A woman takes about half an hour or so of foreplay to be fully aroused. Once aroused, their bodies and vaginal muscles relax and lubricated enough to receive pleasurable penetration. If a woman is not aroused, their muscles becomes tensed and penetration will be painful. A man who tries to penetrate you before you’re fully aroused is a bad lover, just fyi.

Anxiety, PTSD or physical factors like cysts can also make the vagina to clench up tightly. Younger and inexperienced women are sometimes anxious about inserting anything, so their muscles contract tightly, making penetration difficult. Maybe that’s why this whole idea of virgins having tight pussies came about, not because they’re naturally ‘tight’ but because they’re nervous and anxious. (food for thought?)

Excessive tightening and painful penetration can also happen to women of any age and it might be caused by a condition called Vaginismus. It’s a condition where the muscles of a woman’s vagina squeeze or spasm when something is entering it, like a tampon or a penis. It can range from mildly uncomfortable to quite painful and needs medical attention immediately.

So, there you go! Being tight isn’t at all what’s hyped about. 

Are you surprised? Comment below. 

(Source: 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10)

Published by Jasmine

Sex Positive Advocate from Malaysia. Follow @jasexplains.

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